5 solid tips on SEDUCTION

This is not fiction.
I am quite young as you readers may as well know, I just turned 23 few days ago so it may seem rather awkward that I’d be writing something on such an ancient but important subject. What does she know some of you may ask? That’s the same question I asked myself severally even while writing these words, what do you know? What do you think you have to tell? And the answer was NOTHING.
But since I’ve started I might as well continue and you can read on or not
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There are so many great books on this subject; my all time favorite was written by the amazing Robert Greene. My love for anything written, scribbled or printed on a paper made me read any and everything. As a six year old, I had my own little library. Though it was half filled with old newspapers I stole daily from my father, some regular kiddies stories, and old exercise books still it was my own library. My father saw this passion early enough and presented me with books weekly from his own library. Sometimes I’d sneak into his room and I’d seat there and read for hours lost in my own world of possibilities. I read The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene quite early, too early in fact. And yes you guessed right I stole it from my father’s library of course! However what stood out mostly wasn’t what I read then or the other great books on this subject that I’ve come across. It was more of what I saw with my eyes. Growing up I was very quiet and reserved, my greatest companions were my books but my greatest tool was observation. I watched everything like a hawk.


 (NEVER APPEAR DESPERATE OR NEEDY.)

My father, a building contractor by day and a bookworm by night had young hustling boys who worked for him. They lived with us. My mother a nurse who owned a pharmacy had three young ladies who worked with her and also lived with us. We were one big family or at least we pretended to be. I watched the chemistry and drama between these youngsters daily, of course I was younger than them but I learnt the first baby steps of male-female attraction from them discreetly. The particular incident I remember clearly was a young man of about 22 back then. Jude, he was quite handsome, better looking than the rest and had eyes on one of the young ladies working with my mother. However she seemed uninterested and he was fast becoming frustrated since his efforts to win her over had not come to fruition. After awhile he however became more persistent instead of relenting. He pushed on harder blatantly telling her several times he was in love with her. Little Sommy was the deliverer of countless letters and naturally I’d hide and read those letters before delivering it. He tried gifts too, regularly purchasing those single plastic roses wrapped with handkerchief in a box and cheap perfume and he’d send me to deliver it to the young lady, she in turn would send me right back to him rejecting the gift. The other girls were shocked because they fancied Jude and couldn’t understand why this particular lady wouldn’t budge.  If only he knew that desperation makes you less attractive!


( HIDE YOUR TRUE INTENTIONS, AVOID BEING AN OPEN BOOK.)


Now let me tell you why Jude failed regardless of his gifts and good looks. Apart from appearing too desperate he was an open book! The art of seduction has been used since the inception of the world and this is not exclusively for matters of the heart. The most powerful men and women that ever lived still sought it and some used it not only in their personal love affairs but in other matters as well. Seduction is not exclusively for bedroom affairs. A distinct example is of General Chao K’uang-yin who became emperor Sung of China in A.D. 959. Those days a pattern was followed century after century. Bloody coups, soldiers would plot and assassinate a feeble emperor. Then a strong general would replace him, and subsequently to ensure his own survival he’d kill off fellow generals. After a few years later the pattern would ensue, new generals would rise up and assassinate him and his sons to make their own emperor. Revenge choked the air. When General chao became emperor he knew that soon enough he would be assassinated and replaced so he sought for means to break this pattern. He threw a large banquet to celebrate his new office and invited the most powerful commanders in the army, the very ones that would seek his throne. They drank and made merry but the emperor had a concealed intention, an ulterior motive. He planned to seduce them with these niceties for his own benefit.  He dismissed his guards and everybody else leaving the generals. The generals were afraid he’d murder them as was the usual pattern, instead he addressed them. He told them he’d provide them with fine estates and beautiful dwellings, ladies at their beck and call if they so wish and full salaries. Just because they deserved it and he wants to honor them and make them nobles, but of course they can’t be nobles and be soldiers as well. They’d have to give up their commands. The generals though drunk realized that instead of a life of continuous bloody wars, anxiety and struggle, the emperor was offering them, riches, security and luxury. They resigned and retired as nobles to the estates the emperor had provided. Now this might seem as just a struggle for power but the emperor employed the never failing art of seduction, seducing the generals with luxuries meanwhile concealing his real intention which was to rid the air of revenge and secure his office. This made him more powerful and gave him a hold over the retired generals, who in turn no longer seeked his throne but enjoyed their new found wealth and status. Comparing this to Jude’s dilemma, you can now see why Jude failed. He blatantly professed his love for her too early, thereby making himself an open book. He didn’t know that of course, he wasn’t trying to seduce or persuade indirectly, he was just a young man with raging hormones and that was what everybody did and it worked for them. Why would his be different? To others this might be a case of the lady not fancying him naturally. But I say no! With the knowledge of the art of seduction, natural likeness doesn’t come into play. It’s a game practiced with skill to persuade and lead the target on to where you want them to be. Now am not asking you to start incorporating these moves if you’re already courting someone and it’s moving along fine. In this case you can do your thing, but in a different scenario where you definitely need the art of seduction to get someone’s attention or turn around a certain situation you can plan your moves and be smart.


(THE EYE IS A POWERFUL TOOL... USE IT!!)


As young as I was, I watched all these dramas unfold, of course I didn’t quite understand it then, but it molded me. I had a few experiences myself. Growing up as a teenager I was more of a recluse, insecured and I always felt no one would truly understand me. Graduating from an all girls secondary school I never actually had much contact with boys and didn’t know exactly how to act around them. I practically avoided all male advances because of this, and as I began attending extra mural lessons in preparation for entrance examinations into universities this became laborious. I’d walk to the lesson center alone trying my best to ignore catcalls and walk without tripping. One fateful day a tall young handsome boy joined us half way into the lectures and my young virgin heart throbbed. At first I didn’t quite understand those feelings. I went back to my books and tried to bury myself in it as usual but for the first time something had come in-between me and my books. His face never left my head, thoughts of him where my daily food. Finally I realized I’d suffer in silence if I don’t either forget him or make a move, not approach him of course that will be disastrous! Unheard of. So I launched my attack. I used my eyes. I would stare at him till I got his attention, then I’d act like I was lost in thought and ignore him the rest of the day. Those little suggestive glances caught his interest. I never did too much and of course my young heart would thunder wildly when I tried my little moves, but I was confident. My books gave me the confidence a regular eighteen year old would lack, it was an exciting game. Eventually he did approach me and that was how I fell in love for the first time. Now this may seem like an amateur example, don’t judge me I warned you. Told you i knew nothing.
But I’d bet my life on this one. Trust me nothing screams INTEREST and CONFIDENCE like eye contacts! Just don’t overdo it.


THE POWER OF SUGGESTION.

My best friend Jane was in dilemma for several months, because she wasn’t sure exactly what this particular guy wanted. At first she wasn’t interested at all, but this guy kept popping up randomly at places he shouldn’t be and using suggestive words. He never actually wooed her directly. He just let his moves speak for him, and before I knew it my bestie went from “I don’t know what he wants and I’m not interested” to “he’s different and exciting!” when he finally got her right where he wanted, they hit it off! Today they are happily married, and even with years gone they are still crazy about each other!
Men and women are very different in countless ways, but when it comes to seduction they feel the exact same way. They often sense when they are being seduced, yet they give into the excitement of the game. Sadly we lack that excitement in many relationships this days, it becomes a routine. A very boring routine. Everything in seduction revolves around one word SUGGESTION, you cannot announce your intentions or reveal them directly in words instead you must throw your targets off the real thing, scrambling your signals. Appearing interested in some other individual or some other scheme and only hinting at being interested in your target. In trying to seduce you must feign indifference, adopt an “I don’t give a fuck” or “devil may care” attitude. Keep them guessing. They would enjoy the jealousy and confusion created by your moves. It is easier and natural to talk about someone’s feelings and plans for the future. It takes effort to control your tongue and tailor your words; I have fallen victim of that severally and trust me I paid bitterly. Man is an insatiable being and to keep him guessing is the only way to keep him interested. Keep your words vague but full of promise.

PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE


Lastly, patience plays a key role, as you plan and execute your plans you have to relax, and enjoy it too. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Execute each move with caution and wait till you lead them up to where you want them, remember never be too available but push the right buttons. Use body language, be playful and witty. Most importantly learn your target, where they go, what they do etc, but don’t turn into a psychotic stalker. Be patient Rome wasn’t built in a day. You will get there.