Stop the labels!

Written by Onuzulike somtochukwu

           "Is fat or ugly really the worst thing a human being is, is it worse than vindictive shallow,vain,evil,or cruel? not to me"
                                                          - J.k Rowling





what do you see when you look at me?
It doesn’t matter anyways, I’ve called myself worse
I am the….
The fat friend

The ugly sister

The second choice
The broke girl
The dumb classmate
The hated child
The bitch
The ugly duckling
 The unlucky fellow
The “wanna be”
The depressed lady
The girl that will never be good enough…

Should I tell you what the voices in my head say?
You’re Ugly Ugly  ugly ugly ugly ugly UUuuuugly!
You’re fat, disgusting, a woman, frumpy, shapeless, unlovable, worthless, too wobbly, too short,  definitely not good enough.
Eat up! Don’t eat! Don’t wear that! You won’t make it!  Don’t air your views!  Hide!  Hide!! You have nothing to offer! You’ll die.
You know why I am able to share this, because I stopped caring.
 Yes! The society is poisoned but the fiercest demons we face is within us. The society comes up with the labels but it only becomes very abusive when we label ourselves too.
 Who said you are not good enough just because you're a woman?
Who said you aren’t beautiful?
Why do you feel your body is so ugly?
Why don’t you feel you can get that job?
Or write?
Or sing?
Or be successful?
The day I won was the day I decided I am not a “wanna be” I am a “gonna be” till I get there. Don’t damage yourself any further, start fighting those demons.

 STOP THE LABELS! you miss 100% of the chances you don't take!

OK, a quick look into the personal life of the person saying this to you;
My life would make a page turner; I would be the bestselling author if I actually tell my story. If it’s a movie, Titanic would be nothing compared to it but let’s focus on the body shaming though.

I always hated my body; it wasn’t easy embracing huge ass boobs at a young age while everyone around you wasn’t even developed yet. I was called names, made fun of, never left the house without a shawl.

I always hated myself for not having enough hips or enough butt just because of the picture the society paints of us women.  I struggled to fit in but hiding away with my books was my favorite thing. You’ll never catch me in a crowd or openly expressing myself
.
But here we are! How did we get to this point?  I grew up, maturity had a little to do with it but mostly I stopped punishing myself. Yes, I murdered those demons with a shot gun and blew off the smoke.
 I am proud to say that everything I am not made me everything I am and I love this woman I have become to bits.  A confident, beautiful woman with her crown sitting just right.

You might be facing worse or you might be facing less but do you know you can win?
 Yes you can and you will if you silence those demons within you. How you see yourself is what matters the most and never forget GOD MADE YOU AND HE DOESN’T MAKE MISTAKES.
 So go out there and be who you are!

Be who you want to be

Be your own kind of beautiful.





(images randomly taken from my explore page on instagram)